Well finally got all the things needed to make me and my bf’s shiny Umbreon and shiny Espeon cosplay! Super excited and only one month to go! :D
You know, a few months ago this dude friend of mine showed up to hang out with me all dejected. Over a couple of drinks he explained his long face — earlier that night, he’d been walking down the street behind this really cute girl, and when she looked back at him over her shoulder,…
For over half of my life I wished that I had been born a boy.
The way I was raised impressed upon me that men are better than women. They get to have the good careers, they can do whatever they want, and just basically women’s lives suck.
I was told that the ultimate goal and only way a woman can have a truly fulfilled life is by getting married and raising kids (plus she has to be a stay-at-home-mom and if she really loves her kids she’ll home-school them.)
To me that sounded boring. The only point in going to college and having a career was basically to pass the time until some guy magically came into your life. Plus, you couldn’t go into any career you wanted to, it had to be a “woman’s career”. Growing up I could name hundreds of careers that I would do if I was a boy. I could never settle on an actual career for me, as a girl, because all acceptable choices were boring.
I couldn’t join the military because A) I’d be surrounded by a ton of males, B) women aren’t as capable as men and it’s not a place for women, and, C) what if I was deployed and my period started. (Those are seriously arguments that my family used.)
There were other careers that I liked and sounded interesting to me, but they were always male dominated, or by being a female, it would inhibit me in doing the job as well as a male could - or so my family insisted.
Plus women always have to keep up a certain appearance. She has to act a certain way, talk a certain way, look a certain way, etc etc…
Her having sex before getting married is worse than a man doing it.
Her having an affair/cheating is worse than the man - cause if he’s doing it than she probably did something to make him.
Her being a feminist is just male hatred.
Her doing things/having a career that is male dominated is just her trying to prove that women are as good as men - because that’s a bad thing, men are obviously better than women.
There’s always some ulterior motive and if you’re not “girly” you’re either a tomboy, lesbian, or something equally bad. (my family was anti-gay and would get try to get me to change by saying that people would think I was a lesbian - like that was the most horrible insult out there.)
As a kid my favorite color was pink - it was actually red - but red was masculine and pink was feminine so I had to like the “girly” things. Not liking to wear dresses and skirts made me bad/weird. I was always being force-fed what a girl should and should not like and do.
It was sickening and I hated that I was a girl.
I’m 26 1/2 yrs old and I can say that for only the past 3 years have I been ok with being a female. That’s only cause I have awesome friends, am no longer under the oppression of my family’s thinking, and because I’ve learned so much that my family tried not to let me know. I’ll wrap this up cause I didn’t plan on saying so much but I just wanted to fully explain myself. Plus I’m sure there are plenty of other girls that have experienced/are experiencing very similar things being imposed on them by parents/authority figures. I’ll just close with don’t listen to their crap, it’s all lies.